Gottman Method Therapy

Gottman Method Couples Therapy in Chicago

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy started with decades of research from John Gottman’s relationship “love lab”. This approach of therapy was founded by evidenced-based principles of what works for happy and successful relationships! Sara has completed Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level I & II certifications and has extensive experience applying The Gottman Method to relationships. She is ready to help your relationship re-build the pillars of a “Sound Relationship House”! With this approach you will learn how to rebuild your friendship, manage conflict, and create a better perspective or outlook on your future together. Reach out today!

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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse

According to relationship psychologist Dr. John Gottman, these four behaviors destroy relationships over time:

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Criticism: verbally attacking your partner’s personality or character.

Stonewalling: withdrawing and refusing to communicate. Sometimes referred to as “the silent treatment”.

Defensiveness: victimizing yourself.

Contempt: disgust for partner, and/or feeling morally superior to partner. This includes a blatant disregard for partner’s feelings and can include using sarcasm for cruelty.

Read more about John and Julie Gottman, and The Gottman Method by visiting The Gottman Institute’s website below:

The Gottman Institute | A research-based approach to relationships

Suggested readings:

Gottman, J. and Gottman, J. (2007). And baby makes three. NY: House.

Gottman, J. M., & DeClaire, J. (1997). Raising an emotionally intelligent child. New York, N.Y., Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.

Gottman, J. (2000). The seven principles for making marriage work. Orion.

Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2012). What makes love last?: how to build trust and avoid betrayal. New York, Simon & Schuster.

Looking for a Chicago relationship counselor that does couples counseling Gottman style or couples therapy Gottman style? reach out to Sara today!